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That's the worst ref, I've seen!
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Originally Posted by Gabby Bella
as long as you're always communicating and supporting each other, I think it's fine. my boyfriend is a brown belt, and I don't get jealous of his accomplishments, he inspires me to get better!
Man Denny where were you a few years back when i needed to hear this.Quote:
Originally Posted by DENNY PROKOPOS
I started training jits a while back and there was this bada$$ kickboxing Lady in my gym and i would train with her sometimes she was a beast and attractive so when i became single we started dating. Was great for two years. I even got her a job when she fell on hard times at the gym i was teaching jits. then things went real bad fast, things didnt workout but she still had her job which made things weird whenever i went there less people were showing up to my classes because they didnt want to dis her cause they were her friend as well. So i left and move to another location, she moved to memphis for school. a year and change has gone by and she came up to visit only to come up and train and Marcelos where i train, which was weird.
SO im going to go with Denny and JC and say DONT DO IT. its always good at first but if theres ever a break up shit gets weird cause if one of you isnt willing to give up jits ( which we know wont happen ) your always going to have to see one another and its strange as hell.
Live and Learn.
Bro, domestic violence isnt cool....Quote:
Originally Posted by John Archer
haha, I teach my girlfriend a technique or two but she isn't ever going to take a real class or anything. I haven't trained in over a month but I try to get my reps in on her haha. I imagine it could create some kind of problem. I'd trust the guys who have actually been there and could tell you.
VJ, I think you can take him.
Did you just start this thread to show off your bf? You know we're not trophies to be paraded around as a valiant conquest. Y'all are.
A River Runs Through It.
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I dated the captain of a girls roller derby team last summer. She was pretty radical.
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Still, I urn ever so, to find a partner to roll with-dream-come-true. But if we broke up one of us would have to switch schools :)
i would never just because if things go bad i dont want to be at the same gym as her... haha i would have to start looking for a new place haha
If you ever break up, just initiate a smear campaign the likes of which the world has never seen.
Then go munting!!!
Brandon Palmer will you marry me?
haha omgsh lmao dude...Quote:
Originally Posted by Brandon Palmer
My girlfriend trains on and off. She actually took me to my first intro lesson a few years ago. It's nice to roll together, it helps you work on technique, when you don't have to worry about being overpowered.. She is too easy to twister roll though, and sometimes her hair gets caught, but those be the breaks.
It's out on Blue Ray!
I deliberately keep my wife out of the gym so she'll never escape my mount.
Yeah, but if you get her in there she will be better able to mount you.........Quote:
Originally Posted by Scott Elkin
everyones different.. i personally won't do it again. not into the awkwardness at the gym that might arise after the relationship ends
Dating civilians is the best. Worst case scenario date a girl from another gym... MMMmm maybe not LOL
My fiancé is RW Pegau of 10th planet Spokane. He has taught me jiu jitsu. I still train under him. It’s awesome for us because it’s a huge commonality between us. We used to not be able to roll. I had a hard time separating him tapping me out and our personal relationship. I personally love it.
Jealousy isn’t an issue. I used to have a hard time seeing him roll with other women. Jiu Jitsu isn’t sexual, so once I was able to look past is and get past the emotional bullshit. Everything was great.
Gabby, are you concerned about something?
I think you're right, everybody is different, but most of us won't do it again!Quote:
Originally Posted by Jeanilee
I guess that's the only way to find out, do it and then see what happens
Don't do it
The thing I like about my boyfriend being my teacher is that in the classroom, I am a student and he doesn't treat me any different than he treats everyone else (men and women) that come in there. I grew up wrestling and was always treated like a chick. But he allows me to do what I enjoy and I do the same for him.
The only downside we have ever encountered is that we are very comfortable with each other and when he is trying to train me one on one, I tend to just run my mouth and don't let him teach a whole lot. I am very anal-ytical at times and the only way for me to sort out my own thoughts is to verbalize it and it aggravates the shit out of him. I really try to learn and do my best and I know that talking is not drilling. I just need to remember that even one on one he is my teacher when it comes to Jiu Jitsu.
But it has been wonderful for us. Jiu Jitsu is what brought us together.
The only advice I would give to your guys is that if you have a great chick that either does Jiu Jitsu or supports you in what you love to do, make sure you return the favor and support her in whatever she enjoys as well, no matter how gay or stupid it seems to you. If you expect her to be there and support you and don't do the same for her, she will eventually get sick of it and leave. Just my two cents about that.
Thanks for the post, Gabby!
I've thought about this a lot. My two main questions have generally been: 1) Should I date a girl that does BJJ/MMA? And 2) If so, could she be from my gym?
On #1, I think the answer is going to end up being yes. It's a huge passion of mine, and I'd like a serious girlfriend to understand it, and hopefully share in enjoying it. Finding a girl who I actually like and who fights is another story.
For #2, it seems a much bigger issue. At first, when I think about it, it seems like it would be great. You spend time doing what you both enjoy together, it's physical, you're on the same team to route for and help each other ... the list goes on. But I love my gym. I have never had an issue with anybody there, and I feel at home when I show up. I don't want to risk losing that, or ever having to decide whether it's worth going to the gym because I don't want to see someone. Not every breakup is angry, but some are, and almost all end up at the very least awkward. I think I'd probably still make the mistake if the girl was worth it, but I doubt it would be a great idea.
Sorry, I smoked a bunch before I started writing this is went on a bit of ramble.
I agree 100%. If you're going to train jits with your woman, train outside your main jj gym. Romantic relationships at the very core are conflict laden. Plus the normal life cycle of an adult romantic relationship is meet/sexual romantic/breakup. Your dojo/gym/training center should be YOUR time and your training partners' time. I know it's not the Disney Romance attitude, but it's how the world really works. Actively keep your gym a place of peace for the sake of you and your partners.Quote:
Originally Posted by DENNY PROKOPOS
Everybody is different bro. If that's what you believe, then cool but bro I wish I could accurately put into words the kind of relationship! We are like best friends! I know a lot of people say that but I mean it. Actually (as she stated above) we train better in the gym together inside of the gym than outside. I just think (like everything in life) situations are different for everyone. No one scenario is going to dictate the ideal situation for everyone. I just know that with true love (and some help from a higher power) anything is possible. 10th Planet's principal are founded on being open-minded and in my life, that line of thinking reaches out way beyond the philosophies of jiu jitsu. I totally agree with you on the fact that this is real life and 95% of the time, a realationship goes exactly how you explained it above but, BUT.... that still leaves the other 5%. Just think about it my brother and may Jah bless you!Quote:
Originally Posted by Kiko
Woops!
*the kind of relationship that Heidi and myself share!
Sorry left out some words cuz someone was talking to means I was typing. I'm easily distracted!
If you're going to roll the dice my brother, I hope you're in that 5% =D. And may Jah Rule bless you too =D.Quote:
Originally Posted by Josh Smith
Me too. I rolled it about a year & a half ago & we're still going strong! I hope to continue for many more...Quote:
Originally Posted by Kiko