Feeling disheartened after training?

Hi folks,

Just wondering if anyone else has come away from a training session feeling really despondant/downbeat? I had my first experience of it today; it was one of those days when I couldn't seem to get a grasp of the moves we were learning, and then I just felt really tired towards the end and couldn't get my act together.

I felt RUBBISH, mainly because I felt like I just wasted the time of the guys I was training with (stuff not sinking in, and so taking away from their own time to try the moves out). Just wondering if other people feel like this at times?

I'm guessin I should just chill out and look for the positives, right? Someone tell me to get a grip please! :p

*By the way, I'm pretty much a total beginner (been going twice a week for about three months), and the class is MMA but with a heavy focus on no-gi JJ*

Hang in there buddy, we've all been there. Especially in the early days. Keep at it and you will get better and then you will be leaving the gym feeling on top of the world cause you just sorcerered the dude who's been kickin your ass for the past year ;)

yeah man i have felt like this before but my problem is i am very competitive and i hate losing, and i stopped training due to frustration and feelings of let down if i got tapped and i was tapping purple belts a few time a class for months as a white belt i didn't feel my instructor was helping ect (very lame i know) , but i had to change my way of thinking and environment. Keith Owen says It should be fun like we are playing a video game with our friends, if we lose we dont get pissed and throw the controller and never want to play again, we should want to play more so we get better. It should be like playing not work. so it may be a perception thing bro idk though thats just me ;)

Better to have gotten your ass handed to you, then to of not trained and drilled at all, bro. Keep at it, man.

Yer dude iv had this, there has been times were i feel imense, then times when im doing all kinds of retarded stuff i know i souldnt be doing, why this happends can be anything. Even little things like being tired or just to much on at work playing in the back of your mind. Trust me though it will go away.

A buddy of mine got down on himself for not being able to tap me. He just started like a few months ago. I asked him how he thinks I would feel if somebody with 3 months of training was able to beat my 2 years of training? Actually, I wouldn't be down on myself, the dude was a 230lb beast of a dude but I think you get the point.

Maybe you're getting burnt out? Take a week or a few days off (other than the weekend). I always seem to come back a tiny tiny tiny bit better after doing so. At least in my opinion.

How about a nice hot cup of harden the fuck up?
Just kidding :)
It happens to everybody you got good days and you got bad days.
There's no secret the only way to get better is to keep trying and working hard. Don't be scared to take few days off to hit the reset button.

everyone gets like this every now and then, something you have to push through

my gym has a bunch of old school karate and tae kwon do posters and they're extremely cheesy but this one says "success is holding on when others have let go." i remember sneering at it but i always remember it when i have a shit day

i also think rest is HUGE. that tends to happen to me more when i don't get to bed early enough for a bunch of days in a row.

Join the club. :)

It's a long process, friend. Hang in there, the pay off is around the corner, then you'll soon lose the feeling of success again.

As you learn and progress through the years, this feeling will be continual and perpetual. It never leaves. :)

Later on throughout your journey, some days you'll control people, even those with years experience with incredible ease. And even some days you weren't swept once, let alone tapped by people with way more experience than you. You leave the gym feeling stoked, searching back alleys for Marcelo Garcia.

Then some days, you'll wonder if you're even in the right sport, cause you couldn't make anything happen at all. One day, you're a soft and sweet like ice cream, the next your as a rusty metal engine that won't even start.

Keep in mind that there is a reason that most people forget for the bad days. You're trying new things without being very good at them. You lose your wits when trying something new.

Plus, when trying new things, concentrating so hard on them, you're neglecting the good habits that you've worked so hard to develop. You'll eventually have to relearn those too. You learn somethings, you neglect others, you relearn those you've forgotten, then you lose some of those other things you've learned since. So, you'll just have to keep reviewing. This might not be the case for most of you, but this has been my experience.

An example of this is like trying to move your feet, knees and hips correctly while playing open guard, concentrating so hard on that, you'll forget to polish, or even use your grips, while last week your grip habits were solid.

The game will eventually become efficient muscle memory; but for now, you're like a senior citizen trying to remember all the details about driving -- when about to crash (not stereotyping seniors, just a useful analogy).

If you're not tapping, you're not learning, and you'll forever be learning. :)

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Originally Posted by Ian "ifreez" Freemantle

Join the club. :)

It's a long process, friend. Hang in there, the pay off is around the corner, then you'll lose the feeling a success again.

As you learn and progress through the years, this feeling will be continual and perpetual. It never leaves. :)

Later on throughout your journey, some days you'll control people, even those with years experience with incredible ease. And even some days you weren't swept once, let alone tapped. You leave the gym feeling stoked, searching back alleys for Marcelo Garcia.

Then some days, you wonder if you even in the right sport, cause you couldn't make anything happen at all. One day, you're a soft and sweet like ice cream, the next your as a rusty metal engine that won't even start.

Keep in mind that there is a reason for the bad days that most people forget. You're trying new things without being very good at them. You lose your wits when trying something new.

Plus, when trying new things, concentrating so hard on them, you're neglecting the good habits that you've worked so hard to develop. You'll eventually have to relearn those too. You learn somethings, you neglect others, you relearn those you've forgotten, then you lose some of those other things you've learned since. So, you'll just have to keep reviewing. This might not be the case for most of you, but this has been my experience.

An example of this is like trying to move your feet, knees and hips correctly while playing open guard, concentrating so hard on that, you'll forget to polish, or even use your grips, while last week your grip habits were solid.

The game will eventually become efficient muscle memory; but for now, you're like a senior citizen trying to remember all the details about driving -- when about to crash (not stereotyping seniors, just a useful metaphor).

If you're not tapping, you're not learning, and you'll forever be learning. :)

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This. :)

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Originally Posted by MikeSnowdon

Hi folks,

Just wondering if anyone else has come away from a training session feeling really despondant/downbeat? I had my first experience of it today; it was one of those days when I couldn't seem to get a grasp of the moves we were learning, and then I just felt really tired towards the end and couldn't get my act together.

I felt RUBBISH, mainly because I felt like I just wasted the time of the guys I was training with (stuff not sinking in, and so taking away from their own time to try the moves out). Just wondering if other people feel like this at times?

I'm guessin I should just chill out and look for the positives, right? Someone tell me to get a grip please! :p

*By the way, I'm pretty much a total beginner (been going twice a week for about three months), and the class is MMA but with a heavy focus on no-gi JJ*

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Try ' Slowing Way Down ' Vagarosa, relax, focus on the technique, 123 steps, & put in some reps on your own if you can. make jiujitsu yours.

I came to 10th planet as a brown and i have taken more than my share of hits to the ego since shedding the gi. But looking back since i have started training there have been highs lows and plateus and ive come out of all of them ok ...kinda like life :) the worst thing to do is stop just keep pushning and know that the heat you are taking is building somthing stronger

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Originally Posted by Ian "ifreez" Freemantle

Join the club. :)

It's a long process, friend. Hang in there, the pay off is around the corner, then you'll lose the feeling a success again.

As you learn and progress through the years, this feeling will be continual and perpetual. It never leaves. :)

Later on throughout your journey, some days you'll control people, even those with years experience with incredible ease. And even some days you weren't swept once, let alone tapped. You leave the gym feeling stoked, searching back alleys for Marcelo Garcia.

Then some days, you wonder if you even in the right sport, cause you couldn't make anything happen at all. One day, you're a soft and sweet like ice cream, the next your as a rusty metal engine that won't even start.

Keep in mind that there is a reason for the bad days that most people forget. You're trying new things without being very good at them. You lose your wits when trying something new.

Plus, when trying new things, concentrating so hard on them, you're neglecting the good habits that you've worked so hard to develop. You'll eventually have to relearn those too. You learn somethings, you neglect others, you relearn those you've forgotten, then you lose some of those other things you've learned since. So, you'll just have to keep reviewing. This might not be the case for most of you, but this has been my experience.

An example of this is like trying to move your feet, knees and hips correctly while playing open guard, concentrating so hard on that, you'll forget to polish, or even use your grips, while last week your grip habits were solid.

The game will eventually become efficient muscle memory; but for now, you're like a senior citizen trying to remember all the details about driving -- when about to crash (not stereotyping seniors, just a useful metaphor).

If you're not tapping, you're not learning, and you'll forever be learning. :)

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^^^ Very true...Great response!

Every single post in this thread since mine has been overwhelmingly positive, and I feel humbled, and a bit sheepish that I was so negative in the first place. Everything that happened to me today was a learning experience, and that's only going to make me better right? Man I can be such a drama queen at times, d'oh!

I love this place!

I was watching jiu jitsu clips online a few years back and I had a major attitude adjustment one night watching Eddie watching Ari roll. I think I remember this right --Ari was at the end of his gas tank and whomever he was with had him pinned down in side control. Eddie was standing over him yelling (encouraging) "come on, just get to half guard; at least get to half guard!" It was a break through moment for me.

I had never thought of it that way before that. Before then, I was measuring my success in huge steps. "If I were in side control like that, could I sweep, secure my own pin, and then hit a submission?" Yes, or No. Pass or Fail. -And ultimately all just wrong.

The most minor "half-steps" can be a "major" breakthrough if you see them for what they are. Getting just a noticable bit closer to your ultimate goal is its own success. Every stopping point in your abilities is just that; a point. Wear away the blockage little by little just like water carving mountains -a drop at a time. Once you've made that path, it's your's forever.

Easy come, easy go. You want something special that'll last with you forever? It should be VERY hard to earn.

I ACTUALLY HAD A WEEK LIKE THIS 2 WEEKS AGO. I COULDNT CATCH ANYONE AND GUYS I USUALLY TAPPED WERE TAPPING ME. I WAS TRAINING 6 DAYS A WEEK AND I THINK I BURNT MYSELF OUT. I TOOK 4 DAYS OFF AND CAME BACK BETTER THAN BEFOE, IT WAS ALMOST EFFORTLESS. hANG IN THERE AND MAYBE TAKE SOME REST IF NEEDED