Why lord why!? I thought I found one. Was warned she might be crazy and now seems the warning was legit lol
Why lord why!? I thought I found one. Was warned she might be crazy and now seems the warning was legit lol
Watch out when u find a good one lloyd irving will steal them away and make them a world champ
I would love to have a girlfriend who trains jiu jitsu.
perfect girl scenarios are a tough road. I like to think of is like this. everyones shit stinks, find one that you can put up with the smell. plus Jiujitsu is like the one place you go to get away from work/school/your girlfriend, if shes in that with you too YOU HAVE NOWHERE TO GO! ! ! ! ! lolQuote:
Originally Posted by kevinculp
ps. however i dont surf so i cant speak on that.
My wife has expressed interest but I don't want that to happen. That's my time.Quote:
Originally Posted by kevinculp
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Originally Posted by Brent Smith
This is exactly why I resisted so long to start training. Everyone needs their own time. And I didn't want to invade Trey's time. There are still times I worry about that but since we live so far from a hotbox/moon, I am his only training partner for the most part.Quote:
Originally Posted by Brent Smith
But I know some other couples that successfully balance it and strengthen their relationships too. It all depends on the people. :)
i think what he is looking for is someone to put in his "triangle choke" :D enjoy a bit or sneaky "deep" half. have good hip control while in electric chair. DPO. rear naked choke with emphasis on naked. just look up sex jitsu. olaf from 10th planet stockholm made it. :D
lol just teach them!
When I was in Taiwan one of the girls there said she doesn't date anyone at the gyms she trains at, although at the other club I currently train at two of the kids are now seeing each other. At another gym I train at two of the people there date as well. So I guess it really depends on the case.
Don't shit where you eat.
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Originally Posted by Chris Herzog
nothing hotter then a chick that can choke you out
Everyone at the gym was concerned about my boyfriend and I dating because they didn't want it to be weird. We hid it for a while but everyone is fine with it and it works for us. Basically the only fights we have had in the past year and a half were having to do with him not training enough and becoming lazy!
It is nice always having a training partner and coach in my corner at tournaments, especially for when Josh may have 10 people going. Plus my boyfriend knows my game and what I'm best at so he applies that when coaching me.
This.Quote:
Originally Posted by Chris Herzog
avoid girls you train with like the plague.
This. What happens when she gets stage 5 clinger and you aren't feeling her anymore and you still have to see her 4x times a week? Then she starts banging your friend that trains at the same place to make you jealous? It has the possibility to bring mad drama for you, your instructor and your team. I say if you surf together, call that a catch and be done with it because at least if you want to avoid being around her you have a whole ocean to surf on to avoid her while a Jiu Jitsu mat, not so much. I know if it were me I wouldn't want a boyfriend/girlfriend argument going while I am rolling, the whole daddy hit mommy at the dinner table vibe fucks everyone's game up. My wife hates Jiu Jitsu but accepts that I love it. I do everything in my power to maintain this balance because I need that me time. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Chris Herzog
Truer words have never been spokeQuote:
Originally Posted by Brent Smith
Thats great it works for you two! Don't get me wrong I believe everyone should train Jiu Jitsu. Being married with 3 kids running amuck though, I cherish the moments I get away from the family. BUT if she were to truly want to train, I would encourage her completely. I just dont push it since its just a thought from time to time.Quote:
Originally Posted by Crystal Rushing
I just want to have sex at least one time in my life.
Or you divorce her and are still her coach? Happened to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kyle Spalla
Some friend that is, unless he (or she) asks permission to date her first from you.Quote:
she starts banging your friend that trains at the same place to make you jealous?
Did she just choose to keep wanting to train at the gym and u ended up continuing to coach her?Quote:
Or you divorce her and are still her coach? Happened to me.
My gf trains together with me aswell as other martial arts in the past and I'm sure theres still lots of students there that don't know were together. I trust the people I train with that know and I'm not really the jealous type anyway if there is some flirting going on or someones in her guard hahaha, If something were to happen then its not ment to be so meh.. life goes on. =)
I would say, don't date someone you met at the gym. If you were already with this person it could be OK, as chances are if something happens she will leave the training environment. There is this weird Territorial thing that comes into play when a relationship goes sour. I really don't like my students bringing that vibe up in my school.
Obviously I have no control, nor do I care too, of what they do outside my school, but when everybody is on the mat its jiu jitsu time.
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Here's my wife and I doing a judo/bjj demo at the end of a women's self defense seminar. She doesn't surf though. Course, we live in the middle of AK, so that's not really been an issue...
Honestly, Jits changed my life completely. Aside from the fact that prior to starting jits, I pretty much went to work, then sat on my couch, repeat x 7 x 365 for years, I never would have met my wife if not for jits. I was on Myspace years ago when Myspace was a thing that people used, browsing through local profiles. Her pic caught my eye and I saw on her profile that she wanted to learn jiu jitsu. I shot her a quick "Hey I saw you wanted to learn jiu jitsu, classes are 6-8 m/w/f come by any time" message. The rest is history.
We work great together, and she is by far my favorite training partner. She does at times get a bit frustrated rolling with me though, and we don't really sub each other these days.
Don't date chicks you meet at the gym. Yes. Agreed, bad idea. And yes at first rolling as a couple can be frustrating bc maybe as a woman you feel like your man is going too rough when really he's treating you like all the other students. My husband got me into JJ after we got married. Was wishy washy for awhile, but now I love it and pursue it seriously. I think its great for your relationship to be able to be physically Agressive with each other and to learn together at the same time. I enjoy it a lot. My husband is my coach as well, but when it comes to JJ he treats me the same as everyone else. Its business. You go about it in the right way, its awesome..Also, I would think it would be best to find an awesome woman that's chill, then show her JJ. Personally, I tried to surf. I'm terrible at it. I tried really hard for sean, but I'm terrified of sharks and deep water so. *shrugs* I'll help with sunscreen and snacks! And I'll sit on the beach for the 6 hours he wants to surf!
It seems like the only people who ever make it work had a successful relationship before they started training together.
For me and Lindsey, we were together and happy for several years before we started Jiu Jitsu. We began at the same time as well, so there was the fun and challenge of learning together and starting from zero. I feel like it was an incredibly positive thing for our relationship, and still is.
10th Planet Wife of the year?
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Originally Posted by Tori Applegate
I would love my wife to join BJJ with me just so I can get in more reps at home and so I can feel confident she knows how to defend herself. But she's too delicate. I thought my daughter would be into it but she's not. I was kind of bummed. But such is life.
Yeah we've got our daughter in kids judo atm. She seems to enjoy it! I definitely want her to be able to handle herself. I also don't want to push too much on her though.
I've been teaching her for the last 8 years, and in our area it's either my school or a tkd school so she doesn't have much of a choice if she wants to keep training. On my end, I check my personal life at the door.Quote:
Originally Posted by HerbChao
One of my original instructors was dating a student then got married
She was the most disrespectful student ever she would cry in class and be super aggressive and openly tell him he is showing moves wrong when he is just explaining variations then when grading time came she would throw a hissy fit if she didnt get promoted.
He lost a lot of students because they didnt respect her and he couldnt kick or out or take any action against her.
She got a brownbelt while 9 months pregnant and then lost a match to a bluebelt then got a blackbelt right after
To be fair she lost to sarah "cheesecake" moralas from this season on TUF
ALL women are crazy... you just have to find one that is manageable.
Lol, you get married young, you grow together. :-) I make granola too!Quote:
Originally Posted by Phill Schwartz
I was fragile at first too, be gentle. Show her some things at home, find her a chick to rep with for 6 months or so..let someone turn the heat up on her. Just not you. Tell her how fun of a workout it is. I started JJ bc it was readily available. I felt uncomfortable going to the normal gym by myself, I didn't want to roll w the guys. Finally got a 13 year old girl as my steady partner...after 2 competitions, and getting decently smashed by girls in the absolute, I turned it up and started rolling with the guys. It was weird at first for probably a lot of people and me, but I got past it. It's just normal now.Quote:
Originally Posted by David Rosado
Also, us girls like to pow wow. Crystal and I talk about JJ on FB all the time. Tell yo wives to FB us! We can answer all their questions, tell them what's best to wear, etc. Women like to talk to other women about unfamiliar things. They like recommendations from other chicks.
Rick Dawson, Ladies Man :)
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Originally Posted by rickdawson
Lol love reading all these stories. Personally I'm pretty blessed. Got my girl into jits because my team is like my family and jiu jitsu is an imp part of my life and she loves it. She vibes well with the guys, works hard, probably my best training partner as we rep and drill a bunch on our own time, and she's even started bringing friends out. She's the first consistent girl to train at our club and is a great example for newbies. I think it all depends on the girl you are with. For me it works, for others, as I'm hearing sometimes yes, sometimes no...I'm obsessed with jits so its great to have someone who isn't sickened by my constant need to watch videos, write articles, stop and try out a technique, etc... problem is now she's starting to compete and I get way more nervous for her matches than mine...
I second this nomination!!! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Phill Schwartz
I tried the wife and several girlfriends who didn't care for jits or surfing so when that's a big part of my life it caused friction so thought it would be nice to find a partner in crime I didn't need to get away from. I would settle for surfer girl who just does martial arts you want to share enthusiasm not hide out from your wife or girlfriend.
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Jami and I met at a kickboxing gym. I kicked her in a face pretty hard during sparring and kinda had to ask her out after that. It's been over six years and we still together living a very happy life!! She doesn't wanna do jiu Jitsu though, prefers to punch and kick people....
Don't worry too much, she's a big girl. She'll work herself up to where she needs to be after a few tournaments.Quote:
Originally Posted by Josh Bodmon
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Originally Posted by kevinculp