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Why do girls make you choose ive been out of jj for over a year (a horrible 16 months) and now that i got a chance to train again my girl is pissed that most of my free time ill be at jj i feel like its time to get a new girl or just focus on jj and weight find one that loves or likes jj as much as i do
Have you attempted to get her interested in it?
Would seem to be the course of action to take before just dumping her. lol
ive tried even both my instructors have tried one of them being john from the phoenix moon but she refuses i have a set of mats at my house and she wont even try her response is always thats your thing not mine
Have you tried submitting her while having sex? ;)
lol thats actually the only time i dont hear her complain about me using my jj
Maybe she suspects you like rolling around with men more than her.
Though that is true seeing as how you would dump her over it....
Not sure what to tell you if she wont go along with it.
But she did admit that it's your "thing", so really she kinda has to let you have it.
A relationship where either party doesn't at least get to keep their thing is not a good one.
Sounds very similar to a lot of other stories I've heard EX. wife/GF thinks her man spends too much time hunting etc etc. She may eventually give in and realize it's a passion of yours or you may have to make a decision. Luckily for me, my last girlfriend was totally cool with me spending a lot of time at the gym.
Of coure I'm never at the gym anymore, though :-(
My wife is super supportive of my JJ. If u cant find a chick that supports u now either it's a part time hobby for u for u or u put it on the back burner for her. if u put it on the back burner for u and its your passion she aint the chick for u. If she cant accept your lifestyle then she isnt 4 u period.
This is why good invented hookers
My woman encourages me to train. Ive been with girls in the past who get jealous but ive just come to the decision that if they cant understand then theyre probably not someone whose going to last.
Damn! I've not realized how insanely funny you are until you started posting more recently lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by brent_littell
If its what you enjoy doing she's got to accept that and let the bitterness go, I'm sure she has something that she is passionate about if so support her in that and hopefully she will get it
Id say if its something thats really important to you than she should be supportive, thats how good relationships work. It works both ways though. My gf of 5 years has always supported anything ive wanted to do, regardless of how much time i want to put into it. Caring about someone means caring about things they care about. But still make sure to have time for her. A happy wife is a happy life!;)
As long as you aren't leaving her with the kids everyday, ditch her. My girl couldn't get over other peoples sweat in her mouth so never got into jj, but she is still supportive. Everyone needs some time outside of a relationship for it to be healthy.
Honestly though, between rolling around with your gf, or rolling around with a bunch of sweaty guys, the choice should be easy. Sweaty guys win everytime.
Dump her!!! Who really needs a whinny ass (NEEDY) bitch around. We only get one chance at this life. :)
i haven't had someone elses sweat in my mouth in forever thank god for rubber guard. that should be a selling pointQuote:
Originally Posted by Kevin Gibbs
Maybe she doesn't object to jiu jitsu, per se, but the idea of you working out. Maybe she was hoping that you'd let yourself go a little bit so she wouldn't feel guilty about putting on extra pounds. That's my hypothesis anyway.
Your GF doesn't have to love BJJ. She doesn't have to fight, and she doesn't have to watch. But if it's a serious relationship, she should have to be supportive.
If BJJ makes you happy, more disciplined, etc, she should see that and want it for you, even if it's not her thing. If she doesn't, it means she is not interested in what makes you happy - only what makes her happy. Talk with her, explain that it's your passion, and if she still says no - IMO, she is not worth it anyway. This won't be the last time you have to choose between her and happiness.
Besides, it's not like your hobby is attending porn tradeshows. BJJ will make you healthier, and you will look better. Non-fighters spend hours in regular gyms anyway, unless their GFs want to roll in the sack with the Pillsbury Dough-bag.
Drop her an ultimatum. You or she can get the fuck out! We'll see if she really likes you hahaha
I'd say dump her. She wants you to be the way she want. Sounds like she doesn't give a fuck about your happiness...
Leave her or communicate how important it is to you. Staying with a woman who doesn't support you doing what you love is setting yourself up for a future full of misery. Tell your girl to get her own hobby. Maybe she can kick box at your gym. When women have their own thing going on (or friends), they are less likely to want to monopolize your time. Usually women get jealous when you take up all their time but then they have to "share" you. So yeah, she either needs to fall in line, leave, or get her own hobby. There are toooo many women out there for you to be stuck on a life drainer.Quote:
Originally Posted by Luis Acherbo
you know.....how much free time is really getting taken away from her....and hour or so a day? of exercising? is that really so much time? wtf is wrong with her...take that simple perspective even tho there are probably other factors like your schedules and stuff.
LOL you been dropping gold all day.Quote:
Originally Posted by David Stager
hey thanks guys for your feedback she knows how important it is to me ive talked about opening my own school in the future ive thought about the whole maybe she wants me to let myself go a lil but she met me when i was a gym nut ill give it a couple more months and see how it goes and i would be supportive about anything she does if she would get passionate about something.
were not married and we dont live together or have kids
Well, at least you know she's not cheating on you. If she was cheating on you, she wouldn't mind you going to the gym! :D Seen?