I'm very nervous about starting jiu jitsu.

As soon as i get a job i really would like to start jiu jitsu but i'm so nervous about starting. Its not that i'm affraid of the people there i'm just very bad with being around new people. I'm over weight and i would love to train jiu jitsu to lose weight but i always think people are talking crap about me. what if i go and i can't do more then ten push ups? and i see girls busting out 100 push ups. that will ruin me. Any advice?

I posted a thread about this a couple months ago but i think i'm really just looking for motivation.

it'll be one of the best things you've ever done for yourself on many different levels. Miami Hotbox is here for you whenever you're in town

Yeah man. I remember that thread. It doesn't matter where you start, just where you're headed. Most people that I have encountered while training are super positive and supportive. I think it would help you out. I can honestly say that training has changed my life for the better.

all the best brother

dude i work out all the time and i'd be embarrassed as hell if i saw a girl do 100 push ups next to me i can't do a fuckin 100 consecutive push ups to save my life

also being smart can be far more important and useful in jiu jitsu than being strong or fit

Dude basically being overweight took all of your self confidence away from you. Almost all of the shit talking that you think others do are in your head only. To be real, nobody really gives a fuck about you even if you are 150 pounds or 300. Everybody has their own lives to worry about so if your name is not Jessica Simpson or Oprah Winfrey, you being fat does not really concern, bother or take place in anybody's conversation. You need to suck up and realize that your fears are being created in your brain only.
I'll give you an example, when I was a kid, I was scared of Vampires. Only vampires, not Freddy, not Jason, not monsters or any type of serial killers. Just vampires. I was so scared that I would have trouble going inside a dark room, or be alone in the house. I never said this to any of my friends or family because I did not want them to think that I was a pussy. Over couple years this fear of vampires started to make my life somewhat uncomfortable, my mom wondered why I kept on trying to talk to her all though I was 2 rooms over etc.. ( I was thinking if I am talking to my mom and a vampire got me, my sentence would get cut in half and she will realize that something wrong)... Anyways, after a while my fear turned to anger. I was really fucking upset at vampires for making me feel like a pussy, one day I was alone at home I walked in a dark room and started screaming. "Fuck you mother fucker, come out and fight you bitch, its you and me , right here right now!!!" I'd like to remind you I was around 7 or 8 at the time. After swinging a couple punches in the air, I felt a big load come off my shoulders. There was nobody around. I was comfortable, finally. Sometimes still to this day, when I walk in a dark room and obviously no vampires attack me, I smile to myself and say " Thats right bitch, stay in the shadows or I'll fuck you up"
Moral of the story, if you can turn your fears and tears to anger and madness, it works out pretty good.

So I was 114 pounds and 5 10 when I started jits. And yes there were girls stronger than me there that could do more push-ups and whatever else. If you want to be successful in jiujitsu, you have to let all that stuff go (I’m worried that person X in better at thing X than I am). Good news, jiujitsu will change your whole mentality. Bad news, someone (even a girl) doing more push-ups than you is not EVEN CLOSE to the most humbling thing that will happen to you. That would be the case even if you were an exceptional athlete, so I say give it a shot. If you stick to it, it will help you with WAY more than losing weight :)

Meeting new people can very worrying but the thing is life isn't always comfortable so just accept it and embrace it. Get out of your comfort zone because although your comfort zone is what you know it has left you overweight and with low self esteem. Sure you're going to be nervous but do it anyway because this is going to benefit you so much. Cut your nails, wash yourself and your training equipment and no one is going to care about anything else man.

You cant get better if you dont train. Just get in there and get started, it will be the best thing you have ever done for yourself.

Sage, if Palm Bay is close to ya link up with Sean Marshal. He is on here quite a bit. He is a super nice dude and will help you any way he can. There have been tons of peeps that got into jitz to lose weight and become amazing jitz players. Its time for you to go and get yours. Good luck, and as my boy Kiko said, the Miami HB is here if you are ever down in our area.

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Originally Posted by AndyK5

Dude basically being overweight took all of your self confidence away from you. Almost all of the shit talking that you think others do are in your head only. To be real, nobody really gives a fuck about you even if you are 150 pounds or 300. Everybody has their own lives to worry about so if your name is not Jessica Simpson or Oprah Winfrey, you being fat does not really concern, bother or take place in anybody's conversation. You need to suck up and realize that your fears are being created in your brain only.
I'll give you an example, when I was a kid, I was scared of Vampires. Only vampires, not Freddy, not Jason, not monsters or any type of serial killers. Just vampires. I was so scared that I would have trouble going inside a dark room, or be alone in the house. I never said this to any of my friends or family because I did not want them to think that I was a pussy. Over couple years this fear of vampires started to make my life somewhat uncomfortable, my mom wondered why I kept on trying to talk to her all though I was 2 rooms over etc.. ( I was thinking if I am talking to my mom and a vampire got me, my sentence would get cut in half and she will realize that something wrong)... Anyways, after a while my fear turned to anger. I was really fucking upset at vampires for making me feel like a pussy, one day I was alone at home I walked in a dark room and started screaming. "Fuck you mother fucker, come out and fight you bitch, its you and me , right here right now!!!" I'd like to remind you I was around 7 or 8 at the time. After swinging a couple punches in the air, I felt a big load come off my shoulders. There was nobody around. I was comfortable, finally. Sometimes still to this day, when I walk in a dark room and obviously no vampires attack me, I smile to myself and say " Thats right bitch, stay in the shadows or I'll fuck you up"
Moral of the story, if you can turn your fears and tears to anger and madness, it works out pretty good.

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Be sure to research gyms. Don't sign up at the first gym you go to. Go to open mats and intro classes. The people in this sport are more often then not great people. But there are a lot of meat head douche bags out there. I can generally tell the type of people as soon as I walk in. If you walk in and the people in the gym ignore you (assuming no class is going on) and look you up and down, you should probably turn around. It might sound corny but they should greet you with a smile and a handshake. Also they should ask about you and your goals.

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Originally Posted by Justin Brown

Be sure to research gyms. Don't sign up at the first gym you go to. Go to open mats and intro classes. The people in this sport are more often then not great people. But there are a lot of meat head douche bags out there. I can generally tell the type of people as soon as I walk in. If you walk in and the people in the gym ignore you (assuming no class is going on) and look you up and down, you should probably turn around. It might sound corny but they should greet you with a smile and a handshake. Also they should ask about you and your goals.

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This.

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Originally Posted by Chris Herzog

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Hahaha

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Originally Posted by Sage Dorantes

As soon as i get a job i really would like to start jiu jitsu but i'm so nervous about starting. Its not that i'm affraid of the people there i'm just very bad with being around new people. I'm over weight and i would love to train jiu jitsu to lose weight but i always think people are talking crap about me. what if i go and i can't do more then ten push ups? and i see girls busting out 100 push ups. that will ruin me. Any advice?

I posted a thread about this a couple months ago but i think i'm really just looking for motivation.

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I have a bit of social anxiety. I'm socially awkward. And there is a girl there who can whip my ass on the mats. You know what helps me? Leave my ego at the door. It's not about being the best guy in the room. It's about being a better you. I go in there expecting to fail, but learning from those failures. I expect to gas, and I expect to push myself just a little bit further. But on top of that, I'm blessed with a good gym full of good guys and great coaches. Judgement free zone and we're all willing to help eachother.

Weigh the positives vs the negatives. If you break it down, the positives are WAY better than the negatives. In fact, the negatives are petty. The positives are substantial.

Noob to noob; do it. Push all the doubts and fears to the side. Just dive in head first. You won't regret it.

sounds like you may be overthinking it. If this is something you've decided you want to try, then go for it. Don't concern yourself with being more or less than anyone in there, serves no purpose but to enhance your own ego. If anyone talks negatively about you, that's their problem not yours. Obviously you got to start somewhere, there are going to be people there who know more or less, are in better or worse shape than you, it doesnt matter. All that matters is that you enjoy what your doing, and in time these things will come to you also. Just keep an open mind, check your ego, learn from everyone, practice good hygiene/trim nails, have fun.

To quote Rickson:

Fear doesn't stop death; it stops life.


Stop being afraid and live homie.

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Originally Posted by Sage Dorantes

As soon as i get a job i really would like to start jiu jitsu but i'm so nervous about starting. Its not that i'm affraid of the people there i'm just very bad with being around new people. I'm over weight and i would love to train jiu jitsu to lose weight but i always think people are talking crap about me. what if i go and i can't do more then ten push ups? and i see girls busting out 100 push ups. that will ruin me. Any advice?

I posted a thread about this a couple months ago but i think i'm really just looking for motivation.

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You need to not worry about all that you will be fine. IMO i've seen guys that hit the gym daily join jiu-jitsu and gas outt quick. Everyone you train with will help you grow while learning. Can't worry about everyone else

just go man, the fact you made a thread about this means your overthinking it. its like asking the hot girl out, just do it.

i walked in to my currant gym 6 months over 300 pounds 6 months on I'm a svelte 265 and dropping made friends for life and enjoy this bjj life more then i can say sure i still cop a bit of shit for being 10th planet but a quick omaplata solves that every time go and enjoy it it sir

ya and one more thing, even when your shy and in a new environment, you will quickly be talking to people after you roll with them.

Thanks guys. The cool part is that i have a friend that already trains there its just he hasn't been talking to me. its almost like he is ignoring me, but i walked in today and i talked to the girl at the front desk and she was very nice. the main instructer wasn't there but it was very cool in there. i felt very welcomed, now all i have to do is get a job.

and thanks for the invites guys but miami and palm bay are way to far from me, i'm in west palm beach, florida.

As they said mate, it's about being a better you, not about being better than others.

It's easy to forget that in this ego driven world, but just by making that step to go in there, you have already improved yourself.

Next step to hit a class.

All the best mate, will be the best thing you have ever done in your life if you stick with it.

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To quote Rickson:

Fear doesn't stop death; it stops life.


Stop being afraid and live homie.

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That's a fucking great quote.

i was very scared when i first started but i built a realationship with my trainer....he was like my dad and i was 8 again (you know when ur 8 and you dad is everytin u want to be) back then it was me him and one other guy who was good but didnt listen and i worked hard and despite the 5 year age diffrence and 20 pounds i still whoooped his ass. then i kinda looked myself in the mirror and just laughed with joy after that n one can bring my confidence know ...my train still sstops me from being cocky do hahahaha

^^^^^ trainer

What gym did you check out in west palm?

A gym called palm beach boxing, but American top team is there as well. i guess its some sort of partnership they have. the main instructer is Marcos da Matta, he is a black belt under carlson gracie and he has a bunch of championship titles.

He is almost at every UFC event for his fighters that compete in UFC.

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Originally Posted by Chris Herzog

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Dude that shit is actually scary man, don't play like that its not funny!!
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yea that is pretty scared, i was scared of chucky when i was a kid.