This is not the same scenario, but relates. I recently was using a choke pass that I learned
from Bruno Bastos in competition. I never expect the opponent to tap from that pass, but even
Bruno informed me that they would sometimes tap during the pass. As I was passing, I needed
to re-adjust my grip for more leverage. Soon after the re-adjustment, the guy tapped. I let
the choke go and got up. The ref was slightly confused, and asked what had happened, and I told
him he tapped. The other guy laid on the ground, must have nearly been out, cause he laid for
a few seconds on his back, so the ref saw that he was done, and gave me the win, which I did win.
After going back and watching the video, the guy tapped before I ever re-adjusted my grip, but I didn't
see or feel it and the ref didn't see it either. He must have gotten some air when I fixed my grip,
because he quickly hides his tap and tries to fight it again...then soon tapped again.
Point being, he took the opportunity to continue the fight after his first tap, because he realized
the ref didn't see it. If he wasn't about to go out, he may have taken that same opportunity the second
time around, but luckily for me, he stayed down. I saw the second tap, but the ref didn't. Had he not
stayed down, I think I would have been in the same situation you were in. I didn't feel like he was trying
to play dirty when I saw the video, but I think his instinct and desire to win kicked in and he kept fighting.
It's easy for me to say this when they gave me the win, but it just goes to show the mindset people
have in competition, and the mindset you have when you've got pride and emotion involved in a fight.
I have had my arm cranked really fucking hard...as I'm sure everyone here has had. When I tap, it's
because I want the other guy to let that shit go, and I like to think that I would be completely honest
about it, so I hope my opponent will do the same...but it seems that isn't always the case, and competition
brings out the best and worst in some people.
Since then, I have taken to what Zog said...making my mind up about how I'm going to go about
my business before I get into those situations.