Bobby: I'm on the good end of 40 now brother....

As much as I want to get into Jiu Jitsu, it would be a dream come true to be doing this along side my daughter. Image us, father and daughter team competing side by side. But that is only a fairy tale for us. People who knows me know that I don't ever give excuse. However, my story is 40 years in the making. You see when I was in my country (cambodia) before the war, my mother mess up my shoulder. Never got the whole story from her but she said that one day she yank on my shoulder and she heard a "Pop" coming out of it. Keep in mind that my country is still back in the cowboy and indian age where medical attention is not available. After that day she remember me always crying all the time. She learn to live with it. Well the problem didn't surface until I was 13 and growing. One day my uncle notice that one of my arm is shorter than the other, he joking hint it to me and we didn't take notice of it. When I was 14, me and my friends start working out and getting bigger, but I notice that my right shoulder isn't getting as big as my left. Also at that time I was very competitive in basketball. ANd guys would always make fun of my shot, it just look funny/weird to them. I guess it didn't bother me as I am use to it and learn to play as I am. I didn't know how bad my shoulder was until I was training really hard to make the team. I got really good, but being barely 5'5" wasn't cutting it especially with a bad shoulder. So I join the power lifting team instead, trained really hard and was able to outlift most of the football guys. I was only 128 lbs back then was benching 200, deadlift 500, and squatted about 520. I was on the 1000 club. Made it all the way to state in my senior year and even met that WWE wrestler Mark Henry. During that time the inflamation on my shoulder was so bad that I can't even sleep. So finally we went to see the Dr and they showed me my x ray. I have NO HUMMERAL HEAD!!!! MEANING I don't have a "ball and socket" like normal shoulder. I have a socket with a pancake. It was flat, which mean I have very limited range of motion in my shoulder. The Dr was surprise that I was able to do what I do now. But he told me that as I get older, those things will be gone as well. I will also start to develop early for or arthritis. So in any sport, you need to have good range of motion, if not, you are basically useless. With basketball, I'm a great outside shooter because I don't need to arch my shot that much, but as I get closer to the rim, I am terrible. With that being said, when i roll with Cora, she always ask which arm is my bad one so she won't attack it, because if she get an armbar, omoplata, kimura and crank on it just a tad, it hurts. Now this is a 10 year old girl, imagine what a grown man will do to me. No sir, Jiu Jitsu is a great sport and I love it for Cora, but not for me. Can't afford to get hurt, need to take care of the family. I only play ball 1 day a week now to stay in shape. I am overbaring because I see so much potential in my daughter, she is so athletic as I was, and with the right guidance, she might become somebody.