I feel for her with the bigger boys. I am the smallest woman in my group and I know how getting squished like that feels. I have yet to tap any of them, BUT I am getting SO much stronger physically. I will say that I have started doing better since I quit trying to take mount- for me- it's a waste of energy as at some point through brute force a bigger opponent is going to stop you or buck you off once you finally get there.
Bigger opponents try to squish the air out of you to tire you when they have side control. I try really hard to keep my arms safe but at the same time make space to keep my airway open, control my breathing and think of my next move. It requires more energy to roll with someone bigger than you so expending that energy carefully is also important. I have started reacting to less of what they throw at me. I am very flexible so if they want to stack me- cool- I will let them use up energy on that all day. I have a low center of gravity so when they do that I shift my weight and make myself as heavy for that as possible.
I think the answer for me lies in rubber guard and twister. My legs are very strong- and I can defend better with them. I am working on getting opponents in my guard and submissions from that position.
I discovered last week that putting people who are much taller than you in twister control hurts them A LOT more than someone the same size. I have one class worth of experience in twister, but I just ordered Eddie's book
I have only have 3 months worth of experience, but have had to deal with being the runt the entire time. I have lots of experience with big people mopping the floor with me.
Cora is clearly a force to be reckoned with, and just as important, you are clearly a wonderful father and she will be a better woman for it. Thanks for sharing her experience with us!