Sam and Mike: Aside from my mal-formed shoulder joint, a couple more EXCUSES why I can't be training JJ is. Yes the funds. I just can't afford it right now. It cost me $167 for Cora's class, gas taking her to the gym runs me about $100 a month, and the tournaments if we do once a month is about $100 for Gi and No Gi. If we go out of town, then its the hotel cost, food, gas, to be conservative lets just say those are about $200. And to hire someone to take her picture is about $60 per tournament. So let just round it all up to $500 a month for Cora to do what she love. I can make money, but time is of more value. I just don't have the time. I'm so lucky to have a career that allows me to work from home while taking care of the Hurricane (my son). That alone is a full time job. I take care of him at home during the day, while his mom is at work. In between the feeding him, changing diapers, whinning and more whinning and crying, I try to contact my agents and clients and setting up appointments for that evening. Then at around 3pm I go pick up the Triangle Queen from school. We would get home around 3:30pm, I cook her something to eat, while she finish up her homework. By 4:30pm we hit the mat, drilling things that I want her to work on at the gym. By 5:30pm we get off the mat and start getting ready to go to the gym. By 6pm we are at the gym. At 7:30-8pm we are out of the gym and would be home by 8:30pm if we don't go out to eat or make any detours. When we get home, I look over her homework while my wife cook. Sometimes I part from the routine to go take care of my client. But if I don't have any appointment for that evening, this is usually what we do. After dinner, we chill out watching her practice video to see what she needs to work on or watch some MTS. Cora and Kato usually hit the bed by 10pm. If I have appointment for the evening, I usually don't get home until around 11pm, especially when I have my meetings on Tuesday night. So with that, what time do I have for myself to train? This is why most family guys get old and fat brother. Its not that we don't want to train, its about putting other things first. THat is why I always preach to young kids to go out and do whatever it is you want to do in your sport before you settle down and have a family.