This is the kind of attitude that makes me hesitant to visit other gyms. That's not the way I treat guests, and it's not the way I look at things. I'm always excited to roll with guests from other gyms, not so I can beat them down and show how awesome my gym is, or I am, but because it's fun to see different styles of jits. I don't care about "winning" or "losing" on my home mat. I don't boast about that time I tapped out so and so from whatever gym.
I don't want to walk into someone else's academy and have a target on my back. If I show up at a gym, whether mine, or yours, I am there with one goal, to learn. Period. I'm not showing up to be smashed on and be used to feed someone's or some gym's collective ego. I'm there to learn. To see how other people do things. To feel how other people roll, how they deal with what I do, and how I deal with what they do. I have no secrets on the mat.
That's just one thing I do not like about martial arts in general I suppose.