Right on. If competing stresses you out to the point that you don't enjoy training, then you should think about not competing.
When someone walks into our gym and tells me they are interested in the martial arts, my first question is always "Why?" I want to help guide them in a way that will help them meet their goals. As I learn more about the person, I may nudge them toward competition. Maybe not. This is an art, and everyone's canvas is gonna be uniquely flavored.
I also think that it is often (not always) the instructors who don't compete themselves who push their students the hardest toward competition. They have to prove their validity to the BJJ world somehow, and God knows they're not gonna put themselves out there and risk losing.
When someone walks into our gym and tells me they are interested in the martial arts, my first question is always "Why?" I want to help guide them in a way that will help them meet their goals. As I learn more about the person, I may nudge them toward competition. Maybe not. This is an art, and everyone's canvas is gonna be uniquely flavored.
I also think that it is often (not always) the instructors who don't compete themselves who push their students the hardest toward competition. They have to prove their validity to the BJJ world somehow, and God knows they're not gonna put themselves out there and risk losing.