Yeah I totally agree with the not being picked up thing... I try to avoid that at all costs. I just hate to give up RG though... I've worked so hard to get the guy into my closed guard and then broken down, just to give all that away and be back to where i started really sucks. My big problem is that I don't have much game yet. Add to that the fact that these guys are bigger AND better than me, and there are only a few things that work.
Right now my game has 3 main aspects:
1. get into RG. From here I have options and can sometimes even tap my opponents.
2. get into a lockdown. From here I usually don't tap them, but I slow them down, frustrate them, and best of all prevent them from tapping me.
3. I get totally destroyed.
Not a lot of options for me! I can't stay on top of guys, I can't play open guard very well, and I'm not allowed to do heelhooks. At this point I only manage to survive if I'm on my back and controlling my opponent. Any other position is doom for me right now.
I appreciate all the feedback! I think my next step is to try to work on some of Ben's advice.
1. cut an angle
2. press into the hip
3. underhook the leg
I need to find a big guy who can't stop me from closing my guard so I can practice this.
Maybe if I wear a weight-vest under my gi it would help