
Originally Posted by
Arman Fathi
I appreciate your point of view.
I personally find my day devastating if I'm not training. I find ways to train. Yes, I'm paying for jiu jitsu classes, but it's with loan money from school. I sacrifice a lot of social outings to train. Time and again, I've seen pictures on Facebook of friends out and about at a social event that I was invited to and elected to train instead. I have absolutely positively no regrets of that decision. I look to sneak off and grab an early lunch to catch the afternoon class. I embrace laundry and it's inevitability. I look for physical training as well as mental training. We train our minds by watching MTS, hitting the forums, other videos, books, etc. But it's nothing without the mat time. And it's been 3.5 years of consistent training at this point, no injuries beyond nicks and scratches. I take self-preservation extremely seriously, making it my number one priority when I train. I tap early, tap to guys who maybe I "shouldn't be tapping to", just to experience no pain the next day.
My point is, if you want to find a way to train, you'll find a way to train. Because any high level guys will tell you it's not about having rich parents or privates or natural talent. It's about mat time. I've seen guys wash mats, do laundry, clean the academy in order to train because they didn't have the money. Money is needed for certain things in life, but I prefer the quote "Work to live, don't live to work." I'm at a point now in my journey where I absolutely can not WAIT to get on the mats each day, but it took a couple years of training to get to a point where I didn't dread going anymore. It's a long term investment, and you will reap what you sow. Excuses will always be there, but resourceful people make things happen, sometimes with the fewest resources, whether that be time, money, whathaveyou.
I appreciate your point of view as well. I don't see it having any conflict with my point of view. It's just an added perspective. I'm saying, "when you're a white belt, don't sprint to the finish line. It's a long road. You have time. Make wise sacrifices." Your point is "sometimes you have to make sacrifices to get more mat time." And again, I say, "make wise sacrifices."
I'm glad you've never had an injury. I'm sure you're a young healthy man. Freak accidents happen, though. The top guys get injured too. Mat time is essential. Obviously the top guys have the most mat time. It just so happens that some of them can afford full time mat time because they have rich parents who take care of them so they don't have to make as big a sacrifice as others. Most guys don't have the luxury of training full time. So they have to go the long way. So you have to be wise about what you sacrifice along the way. For example, if you're neglecting your schoolwork because you want to train, then you're being irresponsible. "But he found a way to train!" If you're neglecting your spouse or children because you want to train, you suck. "But at least I'm training." It's ridiculous. But some people take that phrase "if you want to train, you'll find a way" and turn it into a sort of mantra to justify neglecting their responsibilities. Others take it to heart because they do want to train, but truly don't have the means.
I don't think people understand the difference between making excuses and having valid reasons. Responsibilities aren't excuses. Limitations aren't excuses. Don't have money? Ask to wash mats! Then have the owner laugh you off explaining that they don't run a charity. Not all school owners have big hearts. Don't have time? Quit your job! Now you have plenty of time....but no money.
That's one phrase that truly grinds my gears. "If you want to train, you'll find a way." Technically it's true, but it doesn't take into account that sometimes it takes time to find a way. It doesn't take into account that finding a way to train means buying DVD's and making DIY grappling dummies. Or going to a seminar once a year. Or trying to convince your friends to roll around with you in your living room while you're both clueless. It doesn't take into account that some people are overburdened with responsibilities and have to work 2 jobs to provide for a family or have to take care of a sick relative around the clock.
So you have poor, sick, stranded, or overburdened guys feeling like crap because they don't have the means to train consistently. Their passion is called into question. Even worse, I feel like the ones who love to use that sentiment are usually guys who have the time, freedom, and money to train conveniently. It's unfair to expect others to make much larger sacrifices than yourself to do the same thing. I find that phrase short sighted and irresponsible if it's not followed up with some sort of addendum. "If you want to train, you'll find a way.....if you actually have an open slot of time in your life....or if you have the money...if you aren't overburdened with responsibilities...etc."
I definitely agree with the sentiment that we should work to live, not live to work. But sacrificing too much for something that gives so little in return is no way to live. Life is about balance. Give and take. Don't give BJJ more than it gives back. If you can find a way to train all the time, do it. If you can't, don't force it. Make sure the sacrifices are actually worth it.
By the way, where do you work that you can sneak in training sessions during lunch? How close is your gym to your job?