Anti-Pot Girlfriends?

[JustinIllusion]

I'm sort of in the same situation with my wife of 7 months now. When we started dating years ago, I told her upfront within the first week or so that I smoked Cannabis. I told her that it helped my creativity, amongst other things, as I was a Magician as well as a Musician at the time. She was fine with it and she even smoked with me on several occasions, but it wasn't really her thing as she is naturally a paranoid person and just wouldn't allow herself to enjoy it. It wasn't until we had gotten engaged that it was an issue. She told me that she thought it was "immature of me / didn't want her potential future children exposed to it / and the ultimate female bullshit arguments such as "Why is it so important to you? It's seems like it's more important to you than I am." She refused to listen to any of the hard facts and logic that I had to offer. She refused to believe that she in fact was more of a drug user than I was as she smoke cigarettes, drank alcohol, and had to have her minimum of 4 cups of Starbucks coffee every morning or else she would withdraw like a crackhead! I even said I would give it up if she gave up coffee just to see what her reaction would be. I knew this should of been a huge red flag, yet she was my fiance' and I thought it was best to compromise, even though she was reluctant. I told her that I would continue until we got married and I would then try and quit after the wedding and limit my use to special occasions, such as Birthdays & Concerts. She seemed fine with that and even allowed me to smoke on our honeymoon in Cabo. Well, after I had quit, the sleeping issues I had in the past got worse and I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with Insomnia. They began giving me Ambien, Lunesta, and other bullshit like Xanax. Well, things got bad and I got hooked on prescription Xanax, as this was the only thing at the time that helped me sleep. I realized that I would have never gotten myself into this situation, had I been allowed to use Cannabis, as this was the only thing that seemed to level me out and allow me to sleep, without having to result to dangerous & addictive medications. So, I began smoking again without my wife knowing and she never knew that I was "high" around her as I don't act immature and function normally and my overall outlook on life is better. I started doing Jiu-Jitsu again and smoking before I roll is one of the most rewarding things I've got going for me now. Well, eventually I told my wife that I had smoked on "several occasions" at a friends house after they threw me a birthday party. We then got into our routine argument again, yet she added that she could potentially lose her job in the future if she becomes a teacher and any of the student's parents find out about her husband. I thought that this was a dumb argument and that if she is worried about that, it would be avoided if she allowed me to smoke in the safety and privacy of our own home. And besides, it's not like I go out in public where there is the off chance that a parent or 3rd grade student would recognize me and take a picture and post it on facebook/twitter. She still refuses to read any books on the truth about cannabis or watch any documentaries. In addition to all of this, she is also a Christian, while I'm more of an Agnostic/Atheist with an Open-Mind to possibilities. I question all religious fundamentalism and the pitfalls of any sort of belief system. I've always been that way and she knew this about me from the beginning of our relationship and said that she was fine with it. Well, leave it to a women to try and change her man after the fact instead of being honest up-front. To say the least, our relationship is on thin ice and I'm not really sure what the solution is at this point. Any suggestions?.... Anyhow, I apologize for rambling on.

[Jack LaBarge]

I'm sort of in the same situation with my wife of 7 months now. When we started dating years ago, I told her upfront within the first week or so that I smoked Cannabis. I told her that it helped my creativity, amongst other things, as I was a Magician as well as a Musician at the time. She was fine with it and she even smoked with me on several occasions, but it wasn't really her thing as she is naturally a paranoid person and just wouldn't allow herself to enjoy it. It wasn't until we had gotten engaged that it was an issue. She told me that she thought it was "immature of me / didn't want her potential future children exposed to it / and the ultimate female bullshit arguments such as "Why is it so important to you? It's seems like it's more important to you than I am." She refused to listen to any of the hard facts and logic that I had to offer. She refused to believe that she in fact was more of a drug user than I was as she smoke cigarettes, drank alcohol, and had to have her minimum of 4 cups of Starbucks coffee every morning or else she would withdraw like a crackhead! I even said I would give it up if she gave up coffee just to see what her reaction would be. I knew this should of been a huge red flag, yet she was my fiance' and I thought it was best to compromise, even though she was reluctant. I told her that I would continue until we got married and I would then try and quit after the wedding and limit my use to special occasions, such as Birthdays & Concerts. She seemed fine with that and even allowed me to smoke on our honeymoon in Cabo. Well, after I had quit, the sleeping issues I had in the past got worse and I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with Insomnia. They began giving me Ambien, Lunesta, and other bullshit like Xanax. Well, things got bad and I got hooked on prescription Xanax, as this was the only thing at the time that helped me sleep. I realized that I would have never gotten myself into this situation, had I been allowed to use Cannabis, as this was the only thing that seemed to level me out and allow me to sleep, without having to result to dangerous & addictive medications. So, I began smoking again without my wife knowing and she never knew that I was "high" around her as I don't act immature and function normally and my overall outlook on life is better. I started doing Jiu-Jitsu again and smoking before I roll is one of the most rewarding things I've got going for me now. Well, eventually I told my wife that I had smoked on "several occasions" at a friends house after they threw me a birthday party. We then got into our routine argument again, yet she added that she could potentially lose her job in the future if she becomes a teacher and any of the student's parents find out about her husband. I thought that this was a dumb argument and that if she is worried about that, it would be avoided if she allowed me to smoke in the safety and privacy of our own home. And besides, it's not like I go out in public where there is the off chance that a parent or 3rd grade student would recognize me and take a picture and post it on facebook/twitter. She still refuses to read any books on the truth about cannabis or watch any documentaries. In addition to all of this, she is also a Christian, while I'm more of an Agnostic/Atheist with an Open-Mind to possibilities. I question all religious fundamentalism and the pitfalls of any sort of belief system. I've always been that way and she knew this about me from the beginning of our relationship and said that she was fine with it. Well, leave it to a women to try and change her man after the fact instead of being honest up-front. To say the least, our relationship is on thin ice and I'm not really sure what the solution is at this point. Any suggestions?.... Anyhow, I apologize for rambling on.

Well, definitely resolve these problems either way before having or thinking about having any kids. Communication is the key to any relationship. Compromise from both of you might be the answer to your problems, but not to the point where your not true to yourself or your going to resent her later on in your relationship. I would definitely talk to her about her trying to "change" you. If your not good enough for her, she shouldn't have married you! Be honest with her and be prepared....most relationships don't work out. Its a marriage license not a contract of change or ownership papers. Good luck and think with your big head and not your little one!

[Jay Chow]

Sounds like you're in a highly shittier version of what I'm going through then!

I'm the same kinda person as you I guess. I'm an open-minded Agnostic kinda guy, always have been, and won't change for anybody. Why should we change? I guess I could get out easier because I'm not married, but it's a hard decision to make regardless.

I've come to an agreement with mine. I can smoke it whenever I want, just not when she's there.

[Jared Gammel]

I'm sort of in the same situation with my wife of 7 months now. When we started dating years ago, I told her upfront within the first week or so that I smoked Cannabis. I told her that it helped my creativity, amongst other things, as I was a Magician as well as a Musician at the time. She was fine with it and she even smoked with me on several occasions, but it wasn't really her thing as she is naturally a paranoid person and just wouldn't allow herself to enjoy it. It wasn't until we had gotten engaged that it was an issue. She told me that she thought it was "immature of me / didn't want her potential future children exposed to it / and the ultimate female bullshit arguments such as "Why is it so important to you? It's seems like it's more important to you than I am." She refused to listen to any of the hard facts and logic that I had to offer. She refused to believe that she in fact was more of a drug user than I was as she smoke cigarettes, drank alcohol, and had to have her minimum of 4 cups of Starbucks coffee every morning or else she would withdraw like a crackhead! I even said I would give it up if she gave up coffee just to see what her reaction would be. I knew this should of been a huge red flag, yet she was my fiance' and I thought it was best to compromise, even though she was reluctant. I told her that I would continue until we got married and I would then try and quit after the wedding and limit my use to special occasions, such as Birthdays & Concerts. She seemed fine with that and even allowed me to smoke on our honeymoon in Cabo. Well, after I had quit, the sleeping issues I had in the past got worse and I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with Insomnia. They began giving me Ambien, Lunesta, and other bullshit like Xanax. Well, things got bad and I got hooked on prescription Xanax, as this was the only thing at the time that helped me sleep. I realized that I would have never gotten myself into this situation, had I been allowed to use Cannabis, as this was the only thing that seemed to level me out and allow me to sleep, without having to result to dangerous & addictive medications. So, I began smoking again without my wife knowing and she never knew that I was "high" around her as I don't act immature and function normally and my overall outlook on life is better. I started doing Jiu-Jitsu again and smoking before I roll is one of the most rewarding things I've got going for me now. Well, eventually I told my wife that I had smoked on "several occasions" at a friends house after they threw me a birthday party. We then got into our routine argument again, yet she added that she could potentially lose her job in the future if she becomes a teacher and any of the student's parents find out about her husband. I thought that this was a dumb argument and that if she is worried about that, it would be avoided if she allowed me to smoke in the safety and privacy of our own home. And besides, it's not like I go out in public where there is the off chance that a parent or 3rd grade student would recognize me and take a picture and post it on facebook/twitter. She still refuses to read any books on the truth about cannabis or watch any documentaries. In addition to all of this, she is also a Christian, while I'm more of an Agnostic/Atheist with an Open-Mind to possibilities. I question all religious fundamentalism and the pitfalls of any sort of belief system. I've always been that way and she knew this about me from the beginning of our relationship and said that she was fine with it. Well, leave it to a women to try and change her man after the fact instead of being honest up-front. To say the least, our relationship is on thin ice and I'm not really sure what the solution is at this point. Any suggestions?.... Anyhow, I apologize for rambling on.

[Josh Smith]

Where the fuck is Brandon Palmer or Singlett on this subject?

[Jon Watkins]

You think maybe she's mad because you kept your toking from her? Girls don't like it when men lie. That's their job.

[Jay Chow]

She did say something about that, Jon, yeah!

[Clinton lawrence]

Heres a tip from me when your girl calls you a lier call her a lier when she says no im not just go 2 things wonder bra and make up
and walk away

[Jon Watkins]

She did say something about that, Jon, yeah!

Well if I were you, I'd first decide how much this girl means to me...and if you think she's worth the trouble, you should do everything you can to try and win her trust back. I'd start with a sincere apology for lying to her and follow up with being as honest to her as you can about everything possible so she can realize that even though you may not be perfect, you're trying for her.

I'm not sure if you wanted advice on the subject, but I figured I'd give you my 2 cents on the matter anyway just in case.

[brent_littell]

hey bros,
my girl like totally used to toke out with me in my van at phish concerts. then, after i lost our baby in a ball pit at chuck e cheese, she was all like "brosiah, you are like way too stoney for me bra. you need to lay off the og cush, brosephus." and i was all "no way, BITCH, your harshing my high. our baby wasnt going to amount to shit, anyways."

then, for no reason, she was all like,"brody, i dont think we should fuck no more." and i said "who's this brody, brody?" and she got all paranoid and shit, so we headed back to the astrovan and made a replacement baby for little bro rogan who died at his second bday party in a chuck e cheese in gardena.

think about that bros