You know dude, I am looking at your post as an outsider since I do not train at 10th planet school or anything, but let me tell you this. If YOU are taking a one week trip to HQ and fund this trip with the money your wife needs to heat the house you are not proving that you have major commitment to JiuJitsu. You are proving that you are a horrible, irresponsible husband, who should have never married and took the responsibility of a relationship. Grow up, go take care of your family. Jiujitsu will be there for you when you come back, and if you can never come back well thats ok too, your family comes first.