is it wrong to check someone younger than you?

[Shannon]

Sounds like he's having a good time with you... if you take it like a bitch, he'll sense that and start picking on you. Don't be so sensitive.

honestly think he does it cause hes a daddy's boy. only reason i havent done anything yet is cause his sister asked me not to, but i've told its gotten old and if he wants to play the game i'll play too but i'll never start it, and shes cool with it now. So kinda like its open mat day when ever he decides to get cocky for now.

on one hand its just annoying but on the other, sinc ehis parents feed his ego and he thinks he can beat me, it also seems like one of those instances in which you kind of have to offer rolling for a few mins then submitting them for them to settle down and show some respect.

even when the owner of the school i go to brought over our professor from brazil he thought he lost his money because professor Eder wasnt a big guy. The owner told me personaly, that he thought he couldnt do much and professor sensed it and told him that they were gonna roll for afew rounds so he will have respect for him and what he does.

[AJ Camacho]

but what if your the guest?

guess its just one of those things where he's at "that age" but it gets annoying really quick. not lookin to hurt the kid, just wantin to drill through his head that its not cool.

if anyone on the forum or in general were a guest in my home respect,courtesy, and hospitality would be evident every second. Want a beer, feel free to look through the fridge, pantry, w/e. dont have what you want, let me know i'll find it for you.

I wouldn't threaten him like a juvenile delinquent. I would simply say, "Excuse me. Do you mind not doing that?" How hard is that to do?

Here's an example, when I first moved out here my brother in-law was doing a lot of weird verbal jokes and jabs sort of jockeying for position. I was his little sister's husband so I think he was trying to put some sort of similar stigma on me or something retarded. I totally didn't care and just thought the whole thing was ridiculous. Well one day I'm helping move his kitchen table. We go to grab the table but I wasn't in position and I ask, "Hold up for a bit." To which he replied, "What, is it to heavy, fag?"

Up to this point his barbs were goofy and juvenile but his homophobic slights were usually re-severed for effeminate nephews and side-kick drinking buddies. I put the table down and calmly said, "Listen, if you want to measure dicks and play this macho game we can just take this to the sidewalk and I can choke you out." He immediately backed off and said he was joking. I then had to iterate to him that I would never harm him and I wasn't threatening him. I was just trying to point out the eventual stupid dead end to his dumb little game.

In your situation I wouldn't throw a vague threat though. When dealing with kids, using a tone of authority usually snaps them out of their shit. They get weird father flashbacks. Stooping to their level only agitates the situation. In my story, my brother in-law was being a passive aggressive weirdo, hiding his insults behind thinly veiled jokes. I made that blunt comment to shake his attention and yank his passive aggressive veil off of his face.

Assertive aggression towards passive aggressives and assertive calmness towards aggressive aggressives.

[Shannon]

thats a definate way to fix it. though with how big his ego is, more than likely he'll push back. he's a military brat like I am, but his parents feed his ego so much he thinks a tank and can take on anyone in the world. even at resteraunts he "prefers to sit facing the door" (like his dad) in case theres trouble so he can take care of the problem. I even told him "your kidding right? your a highschool kid, a full grown man let alone not really anyone will be intimidated by you.

[Kevin Green]

thats a definate way to fix it. though with how big his ego is, more than likely he'll push back. he's a military brat like I am, but his parents feed his ego so much he thinks a tank and can take on anyone in the world. even at resteraunts he "prefers to sit facing the door" (like his dad) in case theres trouble so he can take care of the problem. I even told him "your kidding right? your a highschool kid, a full grown man let alone not really anyone will be intimidated by you.

How old are you?
How old is He?
Do you wanna stay with this girl or not?

[AJ Camacho]

Whatever, he'll do what he does. What's more important is what you do. If you spazz out and start cursing like an angry idiot in retaliation then you'll look like an ass. But if he loses his shit on you and you defensively restrain him into control like a bouncer at a Diana Ross concert, then you don't look like a mongoloid.

[Jared Gammel]

For sure let us know how it turns out.

[Dennis Martinez]

KARMA will come back around just let it go dude laugh it off and when something comes back at him he will learn his lesson and you wont be the a$$ to his family

[Cole]

I would confront him about it. If he get's froggy, oblige him. otherwise let him know you don't appreciate it.

[Dennis Martinez]

for sure let us know how it turns out.

awesome...

[Mac]

laugh at him, that what I do when people try to act like there the baddest motherfucker around. It will piss him off.