Man Neale, there is NO easy answer to that. It just takes time. The serious students will stick it out and get it eventually. The older the student, the easier it is to understand. I look at it this way: the young (and older) professionals that train with me-mid to late 20's, with "careers", houses, wives, kids, know that they can't get fucked up and go to work tomorrow all beat up or with broken limbs. So they're more likely to roll with care, and understand, and ask questions while rolling, etc. The younger kids, maybe in college, or just out of high school, or who think they're the next UFC "champion" are often the difficult ones. Especially if they are victims of ego, or wrestled in high school. They take some time, or dwindle, and honestly-they're not the students or clients you want. The ones that stick it out get it eventually.