Jiu-Jitsu/MMA Couples!

[Brandon Mccaghren]

I am happy to report that my wife and I started Jiu Jitsu together. We had a fantastic marriage before hand, and it has actually served to strengthen our relationship.

Recreational Companionship is an important concept for you guys that are in relationships. Study it.

I know I sound like a complete dork to most of you guys (and I am a complete dork, by the way), but I live the happiest life a man could possibly lead. I can attribute most of that happiness to the fact that my wife and I both value our marriage and our family above anything else.

Jiu Jitsu won't ruin a relationship. Bad foundations will always ruin a relationship.

However, I do agree in part with what Denny said. You prob shouldn't date people from the gym. That will likely end poorly. Lindsey and I began Jiu Jitsu together after our relationship was already very established and strong.

[Mike Nall]

Just curious to get some feedback how do you feel about Jiu-Jitsu/MMA couples? Good or bad thing? Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend who trains jits? Or do you find it to cause problems with it being such a competitive sport? Do you ever get jealous of the other? Lol. (: Just wondering (;

I've dated 2 girls that have done BJJ. Had a fling with a 3rd. For me it was a good thing, with a few downsides. We obviously understood each other's passion for the sport/art. You're able to train together and motivate each other, which is fun. I never felt like we were competitive with each other, but on the other hand one girl was fairly green white belt and the other was almost a brown belt. I'm a blue so none of us ever tried to be super-competitive with each other on the mat. I think it's a wonderful thing as long as you can draw boundaries and let what's outside the door stay there. Same with what happens on the mat... keep it there. None of us got jealous, but the white belt girl was hit-on by everyone at the gym. That relationship was kind of kept on the hush, so maybe that's why, but I still didn't have any problems with it. At the end of the day I knew that she was leaving with me, not them.

I'm not the jealous type though. The way I see all relationships is that if you're taking care of business mentally, emotionally, sexually, etc, then you have no need to be jealous because they're not going to want to cheat in the 1st place. If you are doing all of those things well, and they cheat anyways, they're just a shitty person.

I would say the only real downside is if you break-up and you have to see and train with each other regularly. That can suck, and it's not uncommon for one half of the couple to eventually leave the gym. That's the downside, and it's a big one. If it's just a fling, or friends-with-benefits, this doesn't seem to be as big of a problem.

Also, it's much better to date a fellow student than an instructor or employee. I've seen those situations go wrong every single time. They've never ended well in 12 years of doing various combat sports/martial arts.

Long post I know. But I would actually prefer to date someone that trains. Maybe not strikers as much, because they get hit in the face a lot

[Mike Nall]

I am happy to report that my wife and I started Jiu Jitsu together. We had a fantastic marriage before hand, and it has actually served to strengthen our relationship.

Recreational Companionship is an important concept for you guys that are in relationships. Study it.

I know I sound like a complete dork to most of you guys (and I am a complete dork, by the way), but I live the happiest life a man could possibly lead. I can attribute most of that happiness to the fact that my wife and I both value our marriage and our family above anything else.

Jiu Jitsu won't ruin a relationship. Bad foundations will always ruin a relationship.

However, I do agree in part with what Denny said. You prob shouldn't date people from the gym. That will likely end poorly. Lindsey and I began Jiu Jitsu together after our relationship was already very established and strong.

See the ones I've dated have been at my gym, which isn't as ideal. So you two met, and you introduced her to the sport? That sounds great! The only problem is that I think it's kind of like shooting in the dark to find a girl that is actually down to train. My girlfriend now loves to watch me train, watch MMA, go to my tournaments, etc, but she would never train herself. In a way, I like that just as much for different reasons. We are able to give each other a little more space, which is important. The relationship with the purple belt got a little old as we trained 2 times a day not counting the regular gym for about 2 months and we ended up being too tired in between and after to engage in normal relationship activities like going out to eat, watching movies, going to the beach, trips together, or sometimes even sex.

[Mike Nall]

+1 with Denny. If you spend enough time with each other I don't think it would be healthy to even spend time doing the same thing. Kinda overkill. Everybody needs his/her own space once in a while lol

I know a grappling couple that actually designates a couple nights a week where only one of them goes to train to avoid the overkill factor. Being able to have each other's space is important. I should have amended my post to say that if you both have an unhealthy obsession with grappling it's a bad idea also.

[Nabeel501]

It can be a positive or negative, I think it depends on the people involved in the relationship. A very wise man once told me to keep them separate because the gym is your place of peace. And so far I have followed his advice and it's been good for me.

that dude sounds smart...he should look into inventing a jiu jitsu system or something!! jk

[bobby rivers]

Dammit Palmer. How am I supposed to keep the cat in the bag when we're out of the closet? Homie control was our position

[derrick ikwueme]

nothing hotter to me than a soccer playing, jiujitsu practicing, chick, who does both for her, not to be closer to me, but thease chicks are rare, & thats why my relationships never last through a Full Soccer Season,

[John Archer]

My girl used to do tae kwon do and was undefeated, 24-0 I think, we started kickboxing together then did jiu jitsu and mma training, we both loved it but then she went to the dark side and started dancing, she quit all the stuff we usd to do together which sucked because I really enjoyed it with her, might have had something to do with the knee bar I put on her the last time we trained together, still reminds me about it. Aside from that and a nasty counter left hook she walked onto we never had any problems training together plus she has iron bars for legs with all the tae kwon do so she would always jack my legs up pretty good (I'm shit at checking!).

[Jameson (Weebo)]

If my wife did Jitz, id be happy. She has 100% been behind every thing i have done, motorcycle racing, Training, and even playing the Ukelele as lame as it is. But i wouldnt train with her. I would support her, but i could Not roll with her without giving less/ making her work for the submission. And i wouldnt want her to make me work for it. I feel the "combat" part would hold us back.
Im not saying girls aren better than guys or things like that. Im saying i wouldnt train with my wife because i couldnt arm bar her till tap if i think its huirting her and she is trying to get out. IF she wanted to get better and train thats awsome. But id be holding back so take me out of the equasion.

[Charlene]

It depends. My ex and I joined 10th Planet together and it was good. But things didn't workout and now she rarely trains. I've seen many jiu jitsu couples out here in so cal fall apart though. So far only one couple i know in HQ that are still together. I guess the only advice i have is don't let it stop you from training.

porra!